Comments on: If someone cheats, why the hell would they want to save their marriage? http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage Practical Solutions that Work Tue, 20 Jan 2009 19:11:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: LindaLoo http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-17 LindaLoo Fri, 07 Nov 2008 12:20:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-17 Well that's a lousy attitude.... People screw up, people make mistakes at emotionally bad times, they do things that they wouldn't otherwise do and sometimes you get yourself into situations that you feel you have no way out of until you get caught. Do you love your spouse LESS when they make a mistake? Clearly this is a HUGE HUGE mistake. A mistake that SOME people couldn't and wouldn't forgive. But if someone is truly sorry enough, penitent enough, wanting to take full responsibility for and TRY and fix and make amends - you don't think they are WORTH forgiving to save a marriage that you've possibly invested YEARS of your life into? At what point does the person we love make a mistake that is forgiveable and what is unforgiveable. I happen to believe that we are required to FORGIVE everyone and that is the only way we ourselves heal too. Whether things can be put back together again (like humpty dumpty) time alone will tell.<br><b>References : </b><br> Well that’s a lousy attitude….
People screw up, people make mistakes at emotionally bad times, they do things that they wouldn’t otherwise do and sometimes you get yourself into situations that you feel you have no way out of until you get caught.

Do you love your spouse LESS when they make a mistake? Clearly this is a HUGE HUGE mistake. A mistake that SOME people couldn’t and wouldn’t forgive. But if someone is truly sorry enough, penitent enough, wanting to take full responsibility for and TRY and fix and make amends – you don’t think they are WORTH forgiving to save a marriage that you’ve possibly invested YEARS of your life into?

At what point does the person we love make a mistake that is forgiveable and what is unforgiveable. I happen to believe that we are required to FORGIVE everyone and that is the only way we ourselves heal too. Whether things can be put back together again (like humpty dumpty) time alone will tell.
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]]> By: Chances68 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-16 Chances68 Fri, 07 Nov 2008 11:50:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-16 That's just not so, at least not in all cases. If you're really committed to your marriage, you can still make a mistake, become depressed, whatever, and end up in someone else's bed. That doesn't mean you should give up on your marriage, does it? I think marriage is far too important to walk away from just because of a mistake.<br><b>References : </b><br> That’s just not so, at least not in all cases. If you’re really committed to your marriage, you can still make a mistake, become depressed, whatever, and end up in someone else’s bed. That doesn’t mean you should give up on your marriage, does it? I think marriage is far too important to walk away from just because of a mistake.
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]]> By: DISTROUGHT http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-15 DISTROUGHT Fri, 07 Nov 2008 11:34:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-15 because loosing there wife was never part of the plan. just because they went and got a piece of a** from someone else doesn't mean anything to them, just a few minutes of enjoyment,notice i said few minutes, because they don't realize that that few min. of pleasure could ruin the life they have. There other half takes care of them and that is there life, they don't won't to loose that. I am talking as a wife.<br><b>References : </b><br> because loosing there wife was never part of the plan. just because they went and got a piece of a** from someone else doesn’t mean anything to them, just a few minutes of enjoyment,notice i said few minutes, because they don’t realize that that few min. of pleasure could ruin the life they have. There other half takes care of them and that is there life, they don’t won’t to loose that. I am talking as a wife.
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]]> By: Jimbo http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-14 Jimbo Fri, 07 Nov 2008 10:49:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-14 My ex had an affair and she was caught and she was done with me and just wanted to be friends, she took 6 months to file ? later she wanted to no if I was over her ??? She divorced me by the way and if she wants me back she has a lot of communicating to do with me and to also prove that she will be a good person again ?? But I would give her that chance under those conditions. Some call me nuts but nobodys perfect.<br><b>References : </b><br>experience My ex had an affair and she was caught and she was done with me and just wanted to be friends, she took 6 months to file ? later she wanted to no if I was over her ??? She divorced me by the way and if she wants me back she has a lot of communicating to do with me and to also prove that she will be a good person again ??
But I would give her that chance under those conditions. Some call me nuts but nobodys perfect.
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]]> By: Daddy's Girl http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-13 Daddy's Girl Fri, 07 Nov 2008 10:27:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-13 When I was the other woman my lover didn't want to save his marriage. I later found out he actually left information for her to find so that he could dump the burden of on her to divorce. I dumped him back in her life!<br><b>References : </b><br> When I was the other woman my lover didn’t want to save his marriage. I later found out he actually left information for her to find so that he could dump the burden of on her to divorce. I dumped him back in her life!
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]]> By: lizabeth279 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-12 lizabeth279 Fri, 07 Nov 2008 09:46:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-12 thats what i always think. They shouldn't even be cheating if they are gonnna have to work hard to "save" the marriage afterward. If my husband cheated on me and then tried to save our marriage i would be like uhh hell naww and to think people actually except the apology and stay with them :( disgusts me.<br><b>References : </b><br> thats what i always think.

They shouldn’t even be cheating if they are gonnna have to work hard to “save” the marriage afterward. If my husband cheated on me and then tried to save our marriage i would be like uhh hell naww

and to think people actually except the apology and stay with them :(
disgusts me.
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]]> By: daljack -a girl http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-11 daljack -a girl Fri, 07 Nov 2008 09:23:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-11 I think they realize the grass only LOOKED greener on the other side. <br><b>References : </b><br> I think they realize the grass only LOOKED greener on the other side.

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]]> By: confusedlonely http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-10 confusedlonely Fri, 07 Nov 2008 09:15:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-10 Because they didn't realize they would feel guilty when they were busy making themselves feel good.<br><b>References : </b><br> Because they didn’t realize they would feel guilty when they were busy making themselves feel good.
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]]> By: jude http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-9 jude Fri, 07 Nov 2008 08:36:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-9 i would think that the only reason they want to save the marriage,would be because it didn't work out with the person that they were having the affair with, and did not want to end up alone, but there are people who make mistakes, and do realize they made a mistake.<br><b>References : </b><br> i would think that the only reason they want to save the marriage,would be because it didn’t work out with the person that they were having the affair with, and did not want to end up alone, but there are people who make mistakes, and do realize they made a mistake.
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]]> By: redfox0311 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-8 redfox0311 Fri, 07 Nov 2008 07:49:59 +0000 http://www.marriage-savers.com/save-marriage/if-someone-cheats-why-the-hell-would-they-want-to-save-their-marriage#comment-8 sometimes its your 20/20 hindsight that can make you realize what you care about most and all-of-a-sudden it is now in jeopardy. I'm not excusing or condoning cheating, merely explaining that train of thought.<br><b>References : </b><br>Someone who's been there sometimes its your 20/20 hindsight that can make you realize what you care about most and all-of-a-sudden it is now in jeopardy. I’m not excusing or condoning cheating, merely explaining that train of thought.
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