Comments on: What are the rules of engagement when in a marriage counseling session?

By: Jane Doe

Jane Doe — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 06:51:59 +0000

Rules of Engagement is this…. Honesty is the best policy and the Counselor can not fix what they don't know!! Kind of like when you go to the Doctor…. they can't diagnose you unless you tell him/her your symptoms, right?!! Same thing goes and if you hold back, you are only preventing change in your relationship! Oh, and you might want to also include your "pet peeves"….. Great "emotional work" there!
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By: Lela A

Lela A — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 06:03:59 +0000

honesty is always a good policy
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By: Kayjay

Kayjay — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 05:29:59 +0000

Be honest
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By: whereRyou?

whereRyou? — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 04:48:59 +0000

Rules: You should listen and be respectful. Treat others as you wish to be treated. You should say what is on your mind, otherwise no counselor can help you. Be true to you and true to your spouse. You should decide on your goal for going. What do you hope to accomplish?The counselor is likely to help you define the rules early on. See what happens. Go with the flow. See where it goes.
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By: katydid

katydid — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 04:14:59 +0000

It's usually up to the counselor to be somewhat of a moderator. My suggestions are that you are completely honest about your problems, and keep an open mind. There will be times you don't like what the counselor is saying but keep in mind, s/he is an unbiased, trained, professional and is trying to help. Good luck, I hope the counseling helps your relationship.
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By: SumTingSxy

SumTingSxy — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 04:05:59 +0000

Counselors are there as the mediator… You should speak you mind, but the BEST way to go into this is to LISTEN! Both parties need to listen & pay close attention to what the other one is saying. There is NO right or WRONG on either party. There are opinions. You are there to find a compromise. And if you truly love yourself you will want what is best for your marriage. Loving yourself will open up the doors for your spouse to love you in return…
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By: Denise J

Denise J — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 03:50:59 +0000

You should say what is on your mind. If you guard your words or don't tell the truth, there is no way the marriage counselor can offer ideas or advice.
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By: American Hooligan

American Hooligan — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 03:20:59 +0000

F' it. Say what's on your mind. Not saying what's on your mind is probably what got you here in the first place.
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By: starrfyrre

starrfyrre — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 02:33:59 +0000

If you are going to marriage counseling, the point is to be honest. If you guard your words then you are not open to counseling. Counseling is to get to the root of the problem and/or problems. If you guard your words, you are not really saying what's on your mind, and therefore a counselor cannot be effective if they can't get you to open up.
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