How does marriage counseling for active duty soldiers work?
May 29th, 2008
My husband’s in the 82nd and we’ve been having some marital problems since he got back from Iraq 8 months ago…its to the point now we need counseling or a separation. The Army isn’t exactly a 9 – 5 job and marriage counselors aren’t 24/7, so would my husband’s unit let him have time off to see one?
We just decided tonight on counseling and I'm going to start looking for one tomorrow…I'm just curious how it would work.
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Well, if you two really really couldn't find a counselor who could help you around his work schedule (normally once per week), he could certainly ask for an hour off per week. His CO doesn't have to grant it (unless he's suffering from PTSD or similar) but there's no harm in trying.
However, most marriage counselors and therapists are available from 8am to 8pm or later. When I was younger and my parents were going through marriage counseling, my mother worked second shift and my father worked third shift, but they found someone to work with them at 7am on Mondays.
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Awesome! What a great decision to make, by the way. I'm sure you'll find a good marriage counselor willing to work with your crazy schedules – it may take a bit of digging.
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Wish you all the best.
December 30th, 2008 at 2:33 am
Well, if you two really really couldn't find a counselor who could help you around his work schedule (normally once per week), he could certainly ask for an hour off per week. His CO doesn't have to grant it (unless he's suffering from PTSD or similar) but there's no harm in trying.
However, most marriage counselors and therapists are available from 8am to 8pm or later. When I was younger and my parents were going through marriage counseling, my mother worked second shift and my father worked third shift, but they found someone to work with them at 7am on Mondays.
Best of luck.
—EDIT—
Awesome! What a great decision to make, by the way. I'm sure you'll find a good marriage counselor willing to work with your crazy schedules – it may take a bit of digging.
Wish you all the best.
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December 30th, 2008 at 3:14 am
Start with the unit chaplain.
While the command itself is not likely to allow time off for marriage counseling when the request comes from the service member him/herself, the command may be more willing if the request came from the unit chaplain on your behalf.
Ask the chaplain to act as a liaison between the you and your husband and the command, as well as referrals to counselors in the local area. The chaplain may suggest seeking services on post first – either through the hospital or ACS (Army Community Services).
If you don’t know who the unit chaplain is or you’re squeamish about approaching the unit’s chaplain, go directly to the chapel and ask for assistance. Whether you’re religious or not, the chaplains are there to help you get what you need. If you’re not religious, say so upfront so they know not to refer you to faith-based counseling.
Heads up: ASC is generally short-term, up to 12 weeks. If you still need counseling after that, they may refer you out. Personally, I’m not fond of the idea of changing counselors that far into it, so it may be best to seek a referral through the chaplain or the hospital’s mental health services.
Do remember that a counselor provides a service – just like a mechanic, computer tech or even a waitress. If you don’t like the service provided, find someone else.
Another resource you might find helpful would be Retrouvaille (Raleigh, NC – see source).
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http://www.retrouvaille.org/dates.php
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