He had an affair about 7 months ago and we are both trying so hard to overcome it and get past it. He is remorseful and i havent seen him try this hard since he tried to get me to marry him 10 years ago. I know he loves me and is sorry and is doing everything right to "fix it". But I still think counseling would be helpful. He thinks everything is ok, cuz i dont say anything, i bottle it up to keep things normal, but I really think I need further professional help, but I really want marriage counseling for us both. How do I delicately approach the subject without coming off as demanding it. How do i get him to see that I think it would really be helpful. I still have so many questions surrounding his affair and I am afraid to just ask them. I think a marriage counselor in the middle would be a better alternative, for I have read that in times of healing from an affair, certain things said can be more damaging than helpful and I want guidance to get through it.
Oh and please save your negative comments on once a cheater…bla…bla…Thats not what i asked. So many people are willing to throw in the towel these days and when i read on here telling people to get rid of cheaters, I have to wonder if they ever went through it themselves. Its easier said than done. At least I am trying and if still dont work, at least I can say i tried.